Mr Sung sang the song of Sarah for Simone Sanderson
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How to shut down a dating connection very quickly - don't involve spending money on simpy things.
Best way I've found when I have dated to evaluate the other person (talking as man looking to date women, not the other way around, or gay/lesbian/poly/confused dating) is to not splash around the money esp on 'simpy' things, particularly on the first couple of dates.
If the person is going to be interested, it needs to be genuine interest in you as a person with all your good and bad points, not how much money you have to spend on her and/or 'invest' into her (and a potential engagement/wedding/marriage/honeymoon scenario). Your finances are your own private business and if you choose to splash the cash, go hard into romantic bling, etc. from day zero because you want to get straight into her pants then you do you.
My 'safety rule' is this... No simpy spending until at least date 3, which is also I believe the basic rule of thumb before getting close to doing rumpy pumpy in any way shape or form.
I've never got to date three with anyone in over 15 yrs (second ex was the last time), but as widely reported I've basically walked away now, and nobody I've approached who wanted to date me was interested in me for me. I guess I just don't know how to pick the right people to approach, so not approaching prevents any 'technical problems'. 8-)
I 'invested' too quickly with ex #2 (didn't help that she was a dating site match - yeah once upon a time well over 10 yrs ago an average guy could find matches on them) and that was a mistake.
